DEAR AUNTIE ABENA,
The last time I wrote to you on drug abuse, a lady made a comment on a post saying she wanted to talk to me because her brother uses drugs and talking to him is not helping. I want to use this opportunity to highlight a few things for her and everyone who might be in similar situation as her. There are a couple of things they have to know.
👉 You can’t force an addict to quit. It can’t be done. You can have them arrested, put in jail or forced to rehab but because they haven’t changed their minds to stop using the drugs, they will come back and start using it all over again. The person must be willing to stop. He/she must come out WILLINGLY that he/her is now tired/done using drugs and that he/her wants to quit using. That’s the time they’re ready to help themselves. That’s when they themselves will willingly submit, accept and allow you to help them. They’ll even tell you things that would help you to help them because they’re tired and want out of that life.
👉 Find someone to talk to them for you. Your family member who’s doing drugs WON’T listen to you. They’ll listen to someone experienced in the drug they using. Find an ex weed smoker to have a heart to heart talk with your brother or that sister who’s smoking weed. They know the right things to say to them to make them change their minds and quit using. Same goes for alcoholics, tramadol users and junkies. Especially tramadol users junkies.
👉 Help them to change. Don’t help them to stay the same. If the person wants to quit using drugs and you can get him/her in a rehab to help them, do it. If the person doesn’t want to quit using the drugs, stop giving him/her money because they’d use it for drugs. Give him/her food. If you don’t have food give them money, just enough for food only. You want them to change, don’t be giving them money enough for drugs because as long as they’re comfortable in the life, it’ll never occur to them to quit/change. Remember when I said you can’t force addicts to quit? This is your only real option to force a brother or sister out of drugs.
👉 When a brother or sister, a friend, son or daughter who’s using drugs comes out to you one day and says he/she wants to quit using, that is the hallelujah day. Quickly change their environment. Move them away from the people they hang around with. Get help from someone who knows more about the subject to have conversations with them. With God’s help they’d be fine. Even better because they’d come out matured and experienced. Everything will be fine again. Be rest assured. Thank You.
One last time, always remember to tell them that…
In whatever you do… don’t accept drug abuse as part of upour life.
SAY NO TO DRUGS. STAY FAR AWAY FROM THEM.Sally