DEAR AUNTIE ABENA,
God bless you for your good work. I’m a young lady of 22 years with a child. I just completed tertiary and currently doing my national service. This is my story.
Before I completed school, my baby daddy asked me to marry him and I accepted. He came to meet my parents (I’m a Northerner) and took the bride price list. We bought everything and decided to go to church to bless the marriage.
When I went to my pastor to tell him about it, he asked of the church my partner attended. When I told him, he said it is an occultic church so my partner should stop the church he’s attending before he can marry me. Hmmm. My man pleaded with my pastor to allow him perform the rites because he’d already bought the animals demanded for my bride price. After, we could continue with the Blessings ceremony in church.
Then as time goes on he could stop the church he’s attending but the pastor said no. He (the pastor) called my dad and told him that because of the church issue, my father shouldn’t take the things unless my partners stops the church he’s attending. This caused a delay and all the animals my partner bought died.
Now my family members don’t want me to go to my partner’s house claiming he’s not paid my bride price and for that reason I shouldn’t even spend a night with him at his place.
Auntie Abena, I am so confused that I don’t know what to do because I love this guy and he loves me too. I’m becoming fed up with my people’s reaction each time I go to his place. I’ve decided to go stay with him since they want us separated claiming he’s not educated. I am dying inside and don’t know what to do.
Please I need a little advice from your noble people on what to do next.
Note: we’ve been together for 8 years now and he’s willing to buy the things again and perform the rites no matter what happens God willing next year.