Anger Issues and Insecurities


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I met a guy last year and we became friends for 6 months. Through our friendship, we got to know the bad aspects of each other. He told me he has anger issues and is sometimes insecure.

Auntie Abena, it’s been 7 months in our relationship and I’ve grown to love him. He is a very caring person and he loves me too. We plan on getting married after I complete school but Auntie Abena he has such a bad temper.

I had no idea it was this bad. When he calls me three to four times and I don’t answer then he becomes angry. I’ll call him back telling him why I couldn’t answer his calls but he can be angry at me for three days sometimes too a week. When he does these things, I keep having second thoughts about him.

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I keep telling him that when he does these things they hurt me. I sometimes see no reason why he should be angry at certain things. He is also insecure about me. I keep telling him I don’t ever dream of breaking up with him but sometimes he makes me feel like I’m tired of him. Things even get worse when he calls and my number is busy.

I always make sure I don’t do things he doesn’t like. I don’t like exchanging words with people left alone him so there are certain things he does which I just let them slide.

Please he loves me so much and I don’t want to looe him????. No man has ever treated me the way he does but his anger issues aren’t not helping. We talk about it but it keeps happening. This is the best relationship I’ve been in and I can’t stand the chance of losing a good man like him. He makes me happy too.

Auntie Abena, I’m an emotional person and I can’t count the number of times I’ve cried anytime he is angry at me. He has never raised his hands on me though but I’m scared when we get married it could be worse. I’m confused about him.

Should I go ahead with this relationship?????Please help me post this to your loyal fans as to how to go about this.

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Written by Abena Magis

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  1. One, tell him….there are two conditions, the first is you want him. The second is you won’t stay with such anger.
    Two, ask him…is he in love with you? If yes, then he needs to learn to manage his behaviour.
    Three, if he is wlling to carry it far, he has to learn to see things your way. Make him understand, you will let him loose one day and see how doing things his way all the time feels like.

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