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Can A Cheat Change?

DEAR AUNTIE ABENA,

Please I have this question I wanna put across.

I am a 26 year old guy dating a 19 year old lady. I’ve had nothing but genuine intentions for her and even took the bold step to meet her mum. I just found out she’s been cheating on me with one guy and in fact I noticed some signs yet she always denied until now.

Now I informed her mom, and after told my girlfriend that the love I had for her is no longer there. She’s completely ‘broken’ and is telling me she didn’t know what she was looking for in life and she’s begging me not to leave her else her life will be meaningless. Her mom is also saying I should forgive her because I’m the only guy her daughter has introduced to her, and anytime she doubted the idea of me with her daughter, her daughter always came to my defense.

The other guy sent me an audio which i shared with her mom. He was like the girl thinks she’s playing him err, that he’s a uni boy (actually poly) and said what will he use the girl for and that he’s already gotten what he wanted from her (chopped saa). It’s even more evident the guy is a rogue. NB: I am a certified ‘oil and gas’ engineer from KNUST.

I was only trying to be responsible and building a life partner with this girl. I have a feeling she loves me and she’s even professing her outright hatred for this guy. But my worry is, why she kept on lying to me the guy was nothing to her even after I spotted the signs?

Now to the big question, can a girl like this who once cheated ever change? Since they say once a cheater, always a cheater. I believed her very well though and even her mom is surprised, she thought she knew her daughter well. I even confessed to her mom that I slept with her daughter, she was surprised and even disappointed. Her mom is now heartbroken and is saying the guy played on her daughter’s mind and used her. She’s waiting for her daughter to get back from school????????‍♂️

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Written by Abena Magis

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