DEAR AUNTIE ABENA,
I’ve been dating a guy for awhile now. During one of our conversations from the early part of our relationship, he said that I shouldn’t expect more from him. I asked him more of what and he said everything including future plans. I said oook and dating continued. Sometimes I would ask him, “did you mean what you said the other time?” and he will answer with an energetic “Yes.”
8 months down the lane, I met another guy, a teacher, who was so caring and started planning the future with me. Everything he does he includes me. I began to fall for the second guy because age is not on my side so one day I decided to open up to my first guy that I want us to break up. I’m aging and didn’t want the relationship to crash before I will be referred, he said ok, I can go.
I started packing some of my stuff in his room whiles he sat quietly in the sofa watching me. When I was done packing, I told him I’m leaving and he gave me a hot slap bi which rearranged my brains. He told me he is not letting me go because he loves me but the truth is I don’t love him anymore. And I also don’t even trust his love words and love actions . I want to spend my life with the second guy not him. I’m confused don’t know what to do.