DEAR AUNTIE ABENA
God bless you for the good job you are doing to help some of us.
I never thought I will one day come to your inbox but I am here now. I don’t know if I need advice or I should go straight ahead and kill myself.
MY MAIN STORY
I live outside Ghana and I met one gentle guy, Mr X, over here. He’s 36 whiles I am 28 years. I used to live in the same house with he and four other gentlemen but I regarded them as my big brothers. Around May 2016 Mr X proposed to me but because I regarded him as my brother I didn’t give in. As we became friends, he convinced me not to see him as my brother since I wasn’t part of his family for me to classify him as one. l thought over it and gave him a chance in September 2016.
Along the line I became pregnant for him in February 2018. When I told him about the pregnancy, he immediately told me to abort it but I refused. I insisted that I will keep the child but, he gave me the option to either give birth without his consent or take care of the child alone without even telling anyone that he was responsible. I couldn’t help but tell one of my friends about it. She came to the house to have a conversation with us but he still stood on his ground and repeated what he said to me earlier. I had no choice then to kill my own child.
The most annoying part was that, he opened his mouth and told me that he wasn’t ready for a child then and even if he was I wouldn’t be the one he would have a child with but rather his ex. (He’s always told me that he doesn’t have anything doing with her. The said lady is also out of Ghana but in a different country). That statement really hurt me up to now but he apologized and I forgave him. We were still together but Auntie now the worse happened just yesterday and I don’t know what to do.
Before I go into that, I lost my job two weeks ago so I am home searching for another one. As I am talking to you now I am 10 weeks pregnant but when I told him about it, this time he told me to keep it. I was very happy that I will be having my own child very soon.
Back to what happened yesterday. His phone rang and it was his best friend and he went out to receive the call. I was also in the room talking with my best friend on phone and watching movies at the same time so he thought I wouldn’t hear anything from his conversation but I heard everything.
His friend first asked him about his ex and from his response, they’re still in contact and even planning to get married next year. Mr X then told him that I am his biggest problem now because I am pregnant again. This friend told him to let me abort it but he replied because of how bad I felt when he told me to abort the first he can’t ask me to abort this one. And also he doesn’t know how to tell his ex too because she might get crazy and leave him
His friend then advised him to add the medicine to food or water and give it to me secretly since I am not ready to abort it. When it happens like that I will take it as miscarriage. Mr X then told his friend to bring his voice down because I might get to hear everything. He didn’t know I had already heard everything from behind him. After he ended the call I confronted him. He laughed over it and said I should leave his friend out of it.
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The sad thing is that, before this very incident one of the guys he came with from Ghana told me that I shouldn’t put it in my mind that his brother will ever marry me because he is just using me to look for someone better than me. But because he was drunk when he said that, I didn’t take him serious but not knowing he was alerting me.
Auntie I haven’t slept since yesterday but my guy is rather lying here comfortably sleeping. I feel so hurt and sad. I don’t know what to do now. I am losing it.
I need advice before it’s too late.