How Do I Get My Wife to Let Things Go?


I’m on my way home and wish I had somewhere going but, I know if I do that my marriage will be over. Obaapa is so angry with me that I don’t know what to do. I know it’s my fault and I wish I could get help to tell her to calm down.

Auntie I’m who I am because of Obaapa. Even when everyone was against me marrying her, even when her parents knew she was the one giving me the money to marry her. Even when she was asked by my parents if she was sure she could submit to a poor man like me. She still stood her grounds because of the love she had for me. We got married and had our first baby boy. She set me up with business by investing in a dream my parents thought wouldn’t get me anywhere. I got my first driver’s license, first passport through her and a charcoal seller’s son got to sit in a plane because of her.

I don’t know why I went behind her back. I was just playing those girls, as I couldn’t believe that these girls wanted me and promising to keep it secret. Then I realized they were serious and that’s when I decided why not. Not that I didn’t love my wife anymore or she wasn’t attractive, I still wanted her but those girls were just random girls. Nothing serious.

She found out that I’ve been spending her money on 2 of them. One is in school and I’m helping her with the fees. My wife found out and all hell broke out. She’s so hurt that she gets angry when she sees me. She read all the things I told them about her, I was stupid insulting her like that because I thought she’ll never find out. Now she has.

It’s been 3 months and it’s so hard talking to her. She doesn’t trust me. My kind of work which is photography isn’t making it easy because of my female clients. I know na me f**k up but how do I get her to forgive me? I won’t mess up again but she doesn’t believe me.

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Written by Abena Magis

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  1. Wow, it will be difficult for her to forgive u on this. Just get a very respectable person to intercede on your behalf

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