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I Gave My Husband the License to Cheat

DEAR AUNTIE ABENA,

My husband and I have been married for 7 years. We’ve had the usual ups and downs in marriage but always tried to solve it without a third party. Unfortunately for me, I need a third party now into my situation. Please post

After we had our first child, I was no more feeling or had the urge for sex. My libido went down down that whenever I saw my husband naked I just wanted him to go and sleep. I felt he was bothering me but for the sake of peace, I tried by giving him bj or allowing him access. Through that we had our twins.

Auntie Abena, after I became pregnant with our twins, it became worse. I’m shocked at myself that someone who used to really love it morning, afternoon and evening, I don’t like it anymore. He was still worrying me for sex so I told him that if he wants it, he should go and get a girlfriend and leave me alone.

Auntie Abena, I gave my own husband a license to cheat and he started doing it openly. He wasn’t hiding them from me oo. Even if I’m there, he’ll put the call on speaker and tell them plain plain that he’s married. If they’re comfortable with it then he’s game.

On Fridays, he could call me that he has a date with someone after work so I shouldn’t bother preparing something for him. There was one Thursday he woke me up very early in the morning and told me he’s traveling to Lou Moon with his new chick so he’s left me money. Sometimes he’ll not call me at all until he reached the place with a new girl.

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I tried not to complain but I felt disrespected. I told him to stop telling me about his cheating. He stopped and will only tell me he’s traveling or will be late coming home but I knew what he was doing. I started growing very lean and he stopped. We had a conversation and I told him I regretted giving him that license because I was watching him cheat on me openly. And that it’s not fair.

He told me he wanted me and would always want me but he didn’t want it to be like a chore for me. I told him to stop with his girlfriends because I want him. That night was magical but after that, I don’t know why. My libido went down again. I can be okay lying down by him for months without sex. But he’s not. I found out I was pregnant again last month and I don’t know how I feel about it.

That’s by the way…

Last night, he told me of a party and showed me the text his friend sent. He got back around 2 AM smelling of sex. I’m lying by his side angry and feeling like going to sleep in the sofa. I don’t know what to do. I can’t give him sex but I don’t want him to cheat on me. What do I do?

Written by Abena Magis

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  1. I think you need to get libido boosters. Its normal to lose libido after birth. Visit the hospital and all will be well. There are home remedies too

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