DEAR AUNTIE ABENA,
I took her out once to purposefully interrogate her on what kind of a future she wants to have and I didn’t appreciate her answer. She said she wants to be a normal person. Just that? I don’t have a problem with her being herself but I think if she doesn’t fit into my dreams, I might be stressed.
To the best of my understanding, she will not be able to support me perfectly. Maybe, I am being selfish but let’s take a look at my girlfriend in person. She has not planned her life. She has never supported me whenever I discuss business and academic ideas with her. It’s like she doesn’t understand me or sees me as some kind of born-to-be visionary kind of guy.
She always undermines potential opportunities and undermines herself. She always allows her friends to bully her- which sometimes I have to come to her defense. I really want a woman who can stand up for herself, a woman with a voice. When I asked her if she will ever continue her education to the tertiary level, she responded with a big no, “sorry, school is not my thing,” she always add.
She currently works at a pub which I hate so much but she will just not listen to me on finding another job. I can’t help her out in finding a new job simply because the job available at my disposal requires certain skills which she does not possess or what to even learn.
I am in love with her but I am scared forour future perhaps as a couple will be awful. I am very confused right nowthat I have been avoiding her.