DEAR AUNTIE ABENA,
Good evening. God bless you for your good works.
We have been married for two years. My husband and I have been adding our monies together every month to support our mobile money business. We are both nurses. He keeps my ATM and withdraws my salary every month to add to his.
Auntie Abena, the issue is whenever I ask him for money he gets angry and talks plenty that I like spending unnecessarily. He gives me GHS7 whenever I am going to work. This GHS7 is for both my feeding and transportation. He doesn’t buy me credits so my phone is full of borrowed credit. Even if I ask for credits he will talk and complain.
Just last week, I told him I will need GHS17 to buy an umbrella for our 9 months baby. He told me he doesn’t buy unnecessary things. Just the next day he went to buy Energy Booster 50 cedis to drink.
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My uniform has faded out. I told him I needed money to buy a new uniform. I’ve been selling sobolo drink which I started with a capital of 100 cedis. He told me to use my sobolo money. Meanwhile the uniform and sewing money is even more than my capital.
When I ask for money it becomes a problem full of questions and insult. Our 9 months son wasn’t feeling well recently. We were giving him first aids at home for one week but still not seeing any changes so I decided to take him to the hospital.
My husband got angry that I’m just wasting money and gave us 10 cedis for transportation. When I got to the hospital and they asked that we do labs, I called to tell him but hmmmm he got angry. He said I should explain before he sends the money.
I’m working and receiving a good salary every month but I look tattered. My parents have been expecting some financial help since I got married but, I had to lie to them that I’ve done some investments so I’m broke.
As for my husband, he sends money to his family secretly. He doesn’t know I’m aware of the family calls he hides from me. He’s the one managing the one managing the mobile money so buys anything he likes.
Besides that he talks to me anyhow and shouts at me in public. My dear government worker’s here, please how do you manage your money as couples? Help a sister out. I sometimes feel like quiting.