DEAR AUNTIE ABENA,
Marriage! Marriage!! Marriage!!!
It’s almost every lady’s dream to get married, have children, enjoy the journey, and live happily ever after but it doesn’t always happen like that. Hmm
My husband and I got married in December last year. Before we got married everything was cool and our sex life was great. A year down the line, he’s running away from sex.
I remember during our courtship period, my mum told me she had an ill feeling concerning my relationship with my husband and that some pastors had confirmed it to her. I had to repeatedly tell her what she’s thinking is wrong and that I hadn’t seen anything bad about him since I was the one involved with him.
My husband also called her to calm her down. She agreed and let things be. I loved him so much. He was caring, responsible, jovial and our sex life was great.
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I’m somebody who doesn’t really take things to heart and I love finding solutions to my problems instead of waiting on people. Making friends is something I hardly do so I just have a handful of them. We met in January 2018 and I found out I was pregnant in September 2019 so we sealed the deal in December.
Our sex life
He stopped touching me when I was six months pregnant. His reason being he was afraid he might hurt I and the baby. I tried to talk him out of it but it yielded nothing so I just had to back off. I gave birth in May and he gave himself a 3-month dormancy period. I had an SVD but I was ok after 6 weeks.
From January 2020 to November 2020, we have had sex like 5 times p3 o. Now he’s become a two minutes man. He tells me he doesn’t feel for sex at all and that his sex drive has really gone down, no intimacy (we’ve had sex like 3 times after I put to bed). I try to seduce him but he turns me away. I’m getting sick and tired of this already.
I’ve resorted to watching porn before I go to bed. It’s not a good practice but I dunno what else to do. Lately, I feel so good when I get compliments from men because I don’t get it from my husband. He doesn’t say things to make me feel good about myself. The annoying thing is he takes everything cool and normal.
Am I overreacting or it’s normal? My marriage is not even up to a year. How can I live the rest of my years without enough sex? ????????????????