DEAR AUNTIE ABENA,
I’m in such a bad situation that I have to consider giving in to sex just to pay off my boyfriend’s debts. So earlier this year before the pandemic, my boyfriend told me about a business he was interested in. Although it’s quite lucrative, it’s very risky.
We both didn’t have the capital but I urged him to borrow some money from a mutual friend because I was working by then and felt I could help him pay. He went ahead to borrow the money and started the business.
It involved travelling so when the lock down was announced, he had to stop working. Much to our dismay schools were closed also. As I’m a teacher in a private school, it affected me greatly. I could hardly scrape something to feed myself once a day not to talk of supporting him.
After the lock down was lifted, he tried picking up from where he left off but everything came crashing down. We were both broken. On top of that, our creditor started harassing us. This was in June. We had already agreed to start paying in August but he said something came up so he needed the money urgently.
I became frantic. Although I knew I wasn’t entirely to blame for it but I felt very responsible for this situation we found ourselves in. I was the one who encouraged him to go for it and also promised to help him pay. So I also started moving around begging people for help. Luckily we were able to pay almost half of the amount we borrowed and the creditor left us for a while.
Towards the end of August, he started harassing us again. I was so frustrated that I approached a guy I met in a group on Facebook who I became friends with sometime back. He had expressed interest in me but because I was dating, I brushed him off. I told him about how I’ve been struggling and that I needed help.
He told me not to worry and that he would help me. Imagine how elated I was but that quickly disappeared when he added the condition, he wanted sex in return. I felt nauseous. I told him I couldn’t do that.
But Auntie Abena, our creditor keeps harassing us. The little I have to feed is what I saved up so at least I can pay a little. My boyfriend also tried his best but it’s simply not enough. Recently I’ve been contemplating accepting the guy’s offer of sex so that I can help my boyfriend pay off his debts. I know it can cost me my relationship but it seems there’s no way out.
I’ve seen you and the Manofans give people good advice. Please post it for me because I’m very conflicted.
I’m not online most of the time but I’ll try very hard to read comments.
Thank you very much 💖