DEAR AUNTIE ABENA,
May God bless you for such a great platform created for us. This is my issue.
My fiancee and I have been dating for 9 months now and she is in her first year in the nursing training. We are planning to get married right after her education.
I was communicating with her on WhatsApp just 2 days ago in the evening and asked, “how are you doing bae?” She responded that she wasn’t feeling well because she had a debt that need to be settled the next morning.
I promised to get her the money and she even thanked me for that. So yesterday I went to a mobile money agent to send her the money. Before doing that I texted her that I was about sending it so she should expect it.
Auntie Abena, my woman’s response was that I should not send the money because she had gotten some from a friend. When I asked her if it’s female or a male friend, she responded it’s a male.
I then asked her why is it that she is in a serious relationship but still entertaining male friends by going to the extreme of asking them for money? She responded that because she is in a relationship with me, if her male friend gives her money shouldn’t she take it? She also added that she knew those male friends before meeting me.
I got angry and asked her to choose between me or her male friends. She responded that she wouldn’t be able to distance herself from them because of me. They have been friends for a long time.
Hmmm! I still sent her the money despite the intricacies. The problem is that I am 33 and I really want to settle down. She is 23years. Please I need advise on what to do.