DEAR AUNTIE ABENA,
I’m confused and need help. We both live in the United States. I’m a 28 years old Ghanaian man and she’s a 30 year old beautiful African American woman. She has everything I want in my woman (both outside and inside). We’ve been dating for about 2 and half years now.
This beautiful lady has been so good to me even beyond my expectations and even beyond what my fellow Ghanaian woman will do for me (I have dated a couple of Ghana women).
When it’s my birthday she goes to the extreme, buys me gifts and plans vacations etc and I do vice versa. She’s a Christian and exhibits the Christian values. She has good morals (respects me as a man, she has learned how to make Ghanaian food perfectly) and has helped me grow in my professional career. I have a 3 year old daughter from my previous relationship she loves her with all her heart (she shops for me to send to her occasionally).
Whenever I’m shipping stuff to my family in Ghana, this woman will buy stuff with her own money for the barrels. She has never asked me for a dollar before. She’s very hard working and supportive. When it comes to making love to me, she’s extraordinary. “Otumi twi me papa“. I have been a good man to her too.
Now the problem is that the least thing she does triggers my anger and causes disagreement between us. I don’t know why I have all of a sudden lost interest in her. And I literally don’t want her anymore. I’m not seeing or talking to any other woman too.
She’s trying all her possible best to make it work but the devil in me is refusing to make it work. She’s really fighting for us. She’s always sad and has been crying for over 2 months and she’s very depressed. She’s even seeing a counselor right now. It makes me sad that I’m treating her in such manner. I want to apologize to her but my ego is telling me not to.
She hasn’t done anything to deserve such mistreatment. I don’t know how to tell her that I’m not interested in the relationship anymore because I cannot point out any wrong thing she has done to me and I’m not seeing anyone either. She’s a 100% marriage material. What do I do?