Should I Tell Him the Truth?


I asked my boyfriend for a break a few days ago. I actually want to break up with him but I don’t know if I should tell him the truth about my reasons. I used to look for ways to make him leave me but I can see the love he has for me is still there. He still does what he can to make me happy and is even improving more on how he relates to my friends and family. Unfortunately, it’s not enough.

Auntie Abena, my boyfriend has a small D and this is very worrying. Please I was a virgin and he was the one who broke my virginity but sometimes I don’t feel anything when he’s inside me. It is something I never wanted to tell him but now I’m confused if I should tell him or not.

I’m the first born of my parents and I have three brothers after me. I’m the one who bathed them from when they were very young. My fiance’s D is like the size of an 8 to 10 year and the bad thing is it takes him a long time to erect.

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He used to do everything to make me cum which he did very well but after I cum he’ll still be soft. If I try to sleep he’ll still tell me to wait for him. No amount of BJ, stroking etc helps. It’s like he has to talk to himself before he can stand. Sometimes too, he will stand and within a few seconds become soft again.

I got worried about this because I’ve read books and found it as not normal. I asked him about it one day and he accused me of sleeping with another guy. He said as a virgin, how can I know what is normal or not if he’s the only one I’ve slept with? It turned into something else so I decided not to talk again.

During the lockdown, we were told to go home and I needed a place to stay. My grandma came to stay with my parents and she’s very difficult to please. I told them I’ll stay with my fiance and sew for people to make some money. They understood me and supported with the little they had.

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Because I was home with him all day, this guy decided that until he’s hard, he won’t touch me. Even when I’m in the mood, he won’t allow me to touch him. I’ll have to wait till he’s hard, sometimes at midnight after I’ve already fallen asleep oh. It became too stressful for me so I told him we have to stop having it till after marriage.

He didn’t want to accept it at first but he finally understood me. We had plans of getting married early next but, I’ve been thinking about this for months. I don’t think I can cope with this for the rest of my life. I’ve tried to use stories from your page and other places on the need for him to go for check up. Anytime, I bring this up, he tells me to ignore the nonsense talk by people who don’t know anything. He’s so proud auntie Abena yet he needs help.

He doesn’t want to do anything about his situation too. I asked for a break but I think it will be better I break up with him. Unfortunately for me, he says I need to tell him the truth and nothing but the truth about why I’m leaving him. I’m worried this will affect him because he’s someone who can coil into his shell at the slightest criticism. I am afraid it’ll affect his ego but if he can be helped, I have to let him know so he can get that help. If there is another way I can go about this, I will so much appreciate it. And please if anyone has a solution, they can leave their contacts in the comments. Thank you auntie.

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Written by Abena Magis


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  1. Hmmmm it’s good you tell him the truth thus bitter Truth, Because it looks like he is ok, he doesn’t see anything wrong so tell him the truth and see the way forward

  2. Kindly contact me on 0570018998 and let’s see what we can do there is a lot of solution in the form of food supplement that I sell .

  3. Hmmmmmm this looks very simple but extremely difficult, if u both Manage to get married, there is always going to be a problem. Earlier u quiet the better.

  4. Be the hero to change his life for good by telling him the truth.
    If he decides to fix the problem stay with him since you love him else leave

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