DEAR AUNTIE ABENA,
God bless you for the good work you are doing. Please I need help from you and the fans. I’m really hurting and I can’t even sleep. Felicia and I have been dating for almost 3 years now. I was planning on wedding her later this year but I’m really hurt and confused right now.
Things were moving on smoothly when we started dating. For the first time in my life, I felt I had found a girl that wasn’t going to hurt me. We were so happy together. We got engaged this January and are planning for the wedding later this year.
About 3 weeks ago, she told me that she wanted to start going to the gym because she didn’t want her tummy to bloat. I didn’t agree because I know how these gym trainers are. They like seducing the girls saaaa so I didn’t want to take that chance. I told her she can start with jogging or even skipping or stomach exercises on her own but she was bent on going to the gym. She registered at a gym without my knowledge and she apologized when I found out. She promised to be very careful and not do anything to destroy us so i gave in.
Last week, my guy who also goes to the same gym gave me a hint that he’s seen the trainer getting too close to my woman and the way he’s been touching her all in the name of training is suspicious. The next day, I took an-off day from work to secretly follow her to the gym and see things for myself. I was shocked with what I saw and the crazy part is she seemed to like how the guy was touching her. I also saw her playing with his muscles.
I kept my cool and watched till they finished exercising before I went back to my car which I’d parked some meters away. My plan was to call her to the car so we can talk but she came out with the guy and I watched as they passed by my car without she noticing me. She thought I was at work so her mind wasn’t there.
They took a taxi together and I quietly followed them taxi and just as I suspected, they landed at the guy’s house. I waited for like 15 mins and started calling her but no answer. Long story short, I caught her red handed that she slept with the guy. Now I want to break off the Engagement because I no longer trust her. She’s been crying and begging me since then. She says she didn’t know how it happened and that it caught her by surprise but I don’t think I can marry her.
I had to switch off my phone at some point because all her family members kept calling me to beg on her behalf. Her mum is the problem now, she’s telling everyone that I was also looking for an excuse to leave her daughter, making it seem as if it was my fault her daughter cheated. Am I right for breaking things off? If not, where did I go wrong?